Saturday, May 18, 2013
I enjoyed reading Alexandra Kuydendall’s memoir, The Artist’s Daughter.
In the first few chapters, Alexandra tells us what it was like to meet her father for the first time when she was eight years old. Some of her thoughts or memories of that time seem to be what an older child would perceive. But as she shifts away from that first meeting her voice and memories seem to be more age appropriate.
Alexandra takes us on a journey of her life including shortcomings caused by her need for love and acceptance. Desiring approval; she becomes a perfectionist. Her perfectionism affects her relationship with her husband and others.
As a new mother, she struggles to connect to her newborn daughter. She feels inadequate and lonely. She prays for friends and finds them with her involvement in MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers.). Along with new friends comes a greater acceptance of her role as wife and mother. Eventually, she struggle with a desire to return to work. But to do so means she will no longer fit into her perceived ideal mother role. She comes to the conclusion that there are different ways of mothering and that none of us are perfect.
We also see her struggle to trust her husband to parent their daughters. She reaches the understanding that it is important to allow him to parent differently than she does releasing him from her expectations of what a perfect father should be.
She is learning that she is loved in spite of the neglect she felt from her father. She doesn’t have to prove her worth.
The Artist’s Daughter is a journey of personal and spiritual growth. It come full circle at the death of Alexandra’s father. Finally, she realizes she is worthy of recognition as his daughter regardless of the way she was treated.
You can learn more about Alexandra at www.alexandrakuykendall.com.
“Available may 2013 at your favorite bookseller from Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group.”
Posted by Patricia at 12:25 PM